Simon Sinek: CHANGE YOUR FUTURE – Life Changing Motivational Speech


So I had the chance to meet with some of the kids in the program today, where are you – scream out – there you go?
I love those kids and
So what I thought I would do
Because they gave me a little bit of time – um
To say whatever I want
is offer you a
little bit of
Some observations for your future. I have five little rules that you can follow as you
Find your spark and bring your spark to life
The first is to go after the things that you want. Let me tell you a story
So a friend of mine, and I – we went for a run in Central Park the Roadrunners organization
On the weekends they host races, and it’s very common at the end of the races –
They’ll have a sponsor who will give away something
Apples or bagels or something – and on this particular day when we got to the end of the run there were some free bagels and
They had
Picnic tables set up and on one side was a group of volunteers – on the table were boxes of bagels and on the other side
was a long line of runners waiting to get their free bagel
So I said to my friend. Let’s let’s get a bagel and he looked at me and said
That lines too long and I said
free bagel
And he said I don’t want to wait in line and I was like
free bagel
And he says – ” Nah – it’s too long!” – and that’s when I realized that there’s two ways to see the world:
Some people see the thing that they want and some people see the thing that prevents them from getting the thing that they want.

and so
I walked up to the line
I leaned in between two people
put my hand in the box and pulled out two bagels and
No one get mad at me because the rule is you can go after whatever you want you just cannot
deny anyone else to go after whatever they want. Now I had to sacrifice choice. I didn’t get to choose which bagel
I got, I got whatever I pulled out, but I didn’t have to wait in line
So the point is is you don’t have to wait in line
You don’t have to do it the way everybody else has done it, you can do it your way
You can break the rules you just can’t get in the way of somebody else getting what they want. That’s rule number one.
Rule number two.
I like this one
in the
18th century
There was something that
spread across Europe, and eventually made its way to America called Puerperal fever
Also known as the Black Death of Childbed
Basically what was happening, is women were giving birth and
they would die within 48 hours after giving birth
This Black Death of childbirth was the ravage of Europe and it got worse and worse and worse
over the course of over a century in some hospitals
It was as high as 70% of women who gave birth who would die as a result of giving birth
But this was the Renaissance
this was the time of
empirical data and science and we had thrown away things like
tradition and mysticism – These were men of science these were doctors and these doctors and men of science
wanted to study and try and find the reason
for this black death of childbed and so they got to work studying, and they would study the corpses
of the of the women who had died and in the morning they would conduct autopsies and then in the afternoon
they would go and deliver babies and finish their rounds. And it wasn’t until somewhere in the mid 1800s that
Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes, father of Supreme Court Justice. Oliver Wendell Holmes realized
That all of these doctors who conducting autopsies in the morning weren’t washing their hands
Before they delivered babies in the afternoon, and he pointed it out and said
“Guys, you’re the problem” and
they ignored him and called him crazy for 30 years until
finally somebody realized that if they simply washed their hands
It would go away.
And that’s exactly what happened. When they started sterilizing their instruments and washing their hands the black death of childbed disappeared.
My point is the lesson here is: sometimes, you’re the problem
We’ve seen this happen all too recently with our new men of science and empirical
studies and these men of
finance
Who are smarter than the rest of us until the thing collapsed
And they blamed everything else except themselves – and my point is is: Take accountability for your actions.
You can take all the credit in the world for the things that you do right as long as you also take responsibility
for the things you do wrong. It must be a balanced equation.
You don’t get it one way and not the other. You get to take credit when you also take accountability.
That’s lesson 2.
Lesson 3
Take care of each other.
The United States Navy SEALs are perhaps the most elite warriors in the world.
And one of the SEALs was asked who makes it through the selection process? Who is able
to become a SEAL. And his answer was I
“I can’t tell you the kind of person that becomes a seal. I can’t tell you the kind of person that makes it through BUDs.
But I can tell you the kind of people who don’t become Seals.
He says the guys that show up with huge bulging muscles covered in tattoos –
who want to prove to the world how tough they are. None of them make it through.
He said the preening leaders who like to delegate all their responsibility – and never do anything themselves – none of them make it through.
He said the star college athletes, who have never really been tested to the core of their being.
None of them make it through.
He says some of the guys that make it through were skinny and scrawny
He said some of the guys that make it through – you will see them shivering out of fear.
He says- “However, all the guys that make it through –
when they find themselves
physically spent
emotionally spent – when they have nothing left to give physically or emotionally
Somehow someway, they are able to find the energy to dig down deep inside themselves
To find the energy to help the guy next to them
They become Seals he said. You want to be an elite warrior?
It’s not about how tough you are it’s not about how smart you are –
It’s not about how fast you are. If you want to be an elite warrior
You better get really really good at helping the person to the left of you and helping the person to the right of you.
Because that’s how people advance in the world.
The world is too dangerous, and the world is too difficult for you to think that you can do these things alone.
If you find your spark
I commend you: who you gonna ask for help? And when are you gonna accept help when it’s offered?
Learn that skill.
Learn by practicing helping each other. It’ll be the single most valuable thing you ever learn in your entire life
To accept help when it’s offered and to ask for it when you know that you can’t do it.
The amazing thing is when you learn to ask for help, you’ll discover that there are people all around you
who’ve always wanted to help you. They just didn’t think you needed it because you kept pretending that you had everything under control.
And the minute you say: I don’t know what I’m doing. I’m stuck. I’m scared.
I don’t think I can do this. You will find that lots of people who love you will rush in and take care of you.
But that’ll only happen if you learn to take care of them first.
Lesson four.
Nelson Mandela is a
particularly special case study in the leadership world because he is universally regarded as a great leader.
You can take other personalities and depending on the nation you go to we have different opinions about other personalities
But Nelson Mandela across the world is universally regarded as a great leader.
He was actually the son of a tribal chief, and he was asked one day –
“How did you learn to be a great leader?” and he responded that he would go with his father
to tribal meetings, and he remembers two things when his father would meet with other elders – One:
They would always
sit in a circle.
And two: His father was always the last to speak.
You will be told your whole life that you need to learn to listen.
I would say that you need to learn to be the last to speak.
I see it in boardrooms every day of the week.
Even people who consider themselves good leaders who may actually be decent leaders will walk into a room and say:
Here’s the problem, here’s what I think but I’m interested in your opinion. Let’s go around the room. It’s too late.
The skill to hold your opinions to yourself until everyone has spoken does two things. One:
It gives everybody else the feeling that they have been heard.
It gives everyone else the ability to feel that they have contributed, and
two: you get the benefit of hearing what everybody else has to think before you render your opinion.
The skill is really to keep your opinions to yourself. If you agree with somebody don’t nod “yes”.
If you disagree with somebody don’t nod “no”.
Simply sit there, take it all in and the only thing you’re allowed to do is ask questions
So that you can understand what they mean and why they have the opinion that they have. You must
understand from where they are speaking why they have the opinion they have not just what they are saying and
at the end
You will get your turn
It sounds easy. It’s not.
Practice being the last to speak that’s what Nelson Mandela did.
Number three number five – this Monty Python.
One – two- five – three !
For all the other nerds in the audience
There’s one
Number five
My favorite one of all.
True story.
There was a former
Undersecretary of Defense who was invited to give a speech at a large conference, about a thousand people
And he was standing on the stage with his cup of coffee in a styrofoam cup
Giving his prepared remarks with his PowerPoint behind him, and he took a sip of his coffee, and he smiled,
And he looked down at the coffee, and then he went off-script
And he said “you know last year, I spoke at this exact same conference.
Last year, I was still the undersecretary and
when I spoke here last year they flew me here business class and when I arrived at the airport,
there was somebody waiting for me to take me to my hotel. And they took me to my hotel,
and they had already checked me in, and they just took me up to my room. And the next morning I came
downstairs, and there was someone waiting in the lobby to greet me, and they drove me to this here same venue.
They took me through the back entrance and took me into the green room and handed me a cup of coffee in a beautiful
beautiful ceramic cup.
He says I’m no longer the undersecretary.
I flew here coach
I took a taxi to my hotel and I checked myself in. When I came down the lobby this morning
I took another taxi to this venue
I came in the front door and found my way backstage
And when I asked someone “do you have any coffee?” he pointed to the coffee machine in the corner
And I poured myself a cup of coffee into this here
styrofoam cup
He says the lesson is the ceramic cup was never meant for me. It was meant for the position I held.
I deserve a styrofoam cup
Remember this as you gain fame, as you gain fortune, as you gain position and seniority,
People will treat you better. They will hold doors open for you,
they will get you a cup of tea and coffee without you even asking they will call you sir and ma’am
And they will give you stuff.
None of that stuff is meant for you
That stuff is meant for the position you hold
It is meant for the level that you have achieved of leader or success or whatever you want to call it, but you will always
deserve a styrofoam cup
Remember that
Remember that lesson of humility and gratitude. You can accept all the free stuff, you can accept all the perks
Absolutely. You can enjoy them, but just be grateful for them, and know that they’re not for you.
I remember getting off
The Acela, I took the Acela from New York to Washington DC
And I got off the train like everybody else, and I was walking down the platform like everyone else, and I walked past
general Norty Schwartz who used to be the chief of staff of the United States Air Force, the Head of the Air Force – and
Here, I did you see a guy in a suit
Shlepping his own suitcase down the platform. Just like me – and just a couple months ago
He was flying on private jets and he had an entourage and other people carried his luggage.
But he no longer held the position and so now he got to drag his own suitcase, and
never did it sort of remind me more that none of us deserve the perks that we get we all deserve a styrofoam cup
It was a pleasure meeting you guys this afternoon
I was blown away by your honesty and your curiosity and your poise and
I am confident that the future is bright despite the fact that America looks like an absolute mess right now.
I am confident that the future is bright for one reason and one reason only – because you will grow up, and you will be our future
Thank you very very much guys
You’re wonderful

100 thoughts on “Simon Sinek: CHANGE YOUR FUTURE – Life Changing Motivational Speech

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  2. Maybe the kid just valued his time more than nutrition-less bagels…

  3. Ever heard of dr. Semmelweis? The savior of mothers…..Simon get your stories right

  4. Focus on the bagel (aka the goal) instead of the line (aka the thing between you and the goal)

    Rule 1:
    You can do it your way, you can break the rules, just don't get in the way of others getting what they want.

    Rule 2:
    Sometimes you're the problem.
    Take accountability for your actions. You can take all the credit for your actions, but you must also be responsible for your mistakes.

    Rule 3:
    Take care of each other. Help, and ask for help when you need it.

    Rule 4:
    Listen to others' opinions, learn to speak last.

    Rule 5:
    Accolades, benefits, rewards and respect are meant to for the position you hold. You don't deserve them, you aren't entitled to them. They're for the position you hold.

  5. I hate bagels….. And Mandela was the beginning of the end, of what was, a beautiful country. Not good analogies for me, anyway…. But some good lessons to guide you down the pathway of life….

  6. The first example was really bad. Please don't follow him. Next time somebody gets beaten up cause of that

  7. For free stuff who wouldn't do the same ''go and take it''? It's fairly logic, but if it's by award there will be consequences.

  8. Total agreed especially the 5th one – People treat my fame, my position not my real person. I already experienced this.

  9. Hi Simon Sinek, It's so fortune to me to watch your motivational speech. I definitely follow the 5 essential rules in my entire life time. Thank you very much for uploading this vedio. I got your vedio by watching EvanCarmicheal. Much thank to Evan…

  10. Rule #1 is not a good idea, because you wait in lines like every civilized person in the world would do. Any thing you have to get for free is not free & I donโ€™t like hidden free things.
    I like to pay for everything I get. The remaining Rules are good & wisdom I like thank you

  11. "…until somebody realized that if they simply washed their hands…"
    Sorry, I need to mention that this doctor was Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis (known as the saviour of mothers). He was hungarian and I am hungarian too! The video was perfect by the way…:) loved his speech.

  12. I laughed so much at "it's Monty Python – one, two, five, three!" :)))

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    God has blessed you with such an amazing talent ie, motivating people ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

  14. or … he doesn't like bagels … and did not want to break your heart.

  15. so … the last two people in line did not get a bagel because you cheated the system.

  16. Cikgu Fahmi are you watching this ? I'm sorry for what's happen T^T I Send a signal to you because ily . I'm falling for you

  17. Iโ€™ve got the utmost respect for you, as Iโ€™ve listened to everything that you have said . I have one serious issue with you and that is that you can never skip a queue. I donโ€™t care if you feel you can stick your hand in (I would have cut it off). The rule is……… You Donโ€™t Skip The Q in any shape or form.

  18. Maybe the guy didn't value the bagel as much as he disliked the line. Sounds like Simon just came up with any way to make himself sound superior to the friend. The friend could've said about Simon "that's when I learned there's two types of people in this world: those who value time, and those who don't" (besides the fact that Simon skipped the line). A $1 bagel isn't worth waiting in line 15 minutes for, unless you value your time at $4 per hour. I'm sure if it was free gold, the friend would've waited in line.

  19. Because they dont want to wash anymore the ceramic cup, they just want to. After you use the stereofoam they can throw it away!

  20. I don't like the 'bagel' example – he's wrong to break the rules and push through the que – and his analysis, if taken to an extreme, would be disastrous for all…

  21. 1st rule. What if he took the last bagels and stepped on other peoples chance off getting what they wanted ๐Ÿ™‚

  22. Hillary Clinton could stand to learn a thing or two from this, especially #2

  23. You are a Awesome speaker also your message speak the truth it makes a lot of sense๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ Thank you

  24. aren't these rules straight from his book leaders eat last? they sound so familiar?

  25. I get the first rule, but the bagel example just doesn't seem right.

  26. Definitely rude. And to think that it's okay to get what he wants regardless of other people my world completely disgusting

  27. You are lucky that the line didn't womp your ass for reaching in for the bagel.

  28. I should have been more descriptive..when he felt it was ok to cut the line

  29. Whatโ€™s the point of motivational speeches. One year from now if you can recollect a single line accurately from the speech I will be amazed.
    The human brain needs to hear the same thing 700 times for it to actually go in.
    They are a waste of time, sub conscious re programming and phycology can actually help people. If your over 25 you are who you are, the amount of changes that will occur are minimal no matter how hard you what to change. Your conscious mind is only aware of 40 bits of information per second vs the 40 million of the sub conscious, we are a programmed machine, that simply runs the program.
    Look into things that can actually re wire you, inspiration and motivation is gone minutes after the video ends

  30. This is why we Built The Avengers Jeep… 10 years in the making. And why we are constructing the EDM Archive… 35 years in the making. – Avengers Jeep & Adonimus ๐Ÿ˜‰

  31. whoa. theres TONS of value in here!!! WAY better than alot of the gurus out there. Goal is to quit my full time job.

  32. But what if you took the last two bagels and because you jumped in the line the people behind you missed out?????

  33. 5 Rules:
    1. 0:40 – go after what you want
    2. 4:50 – take responsibility for all your actions
    3. 5:41 – take care of each other
    4. 8:47 – listen first, speak last, don't agree or disagree but ask
    5. 11:19 – everyone deserves a styrofoam cup

    For my future reference when I need encouragement ๐ŸŒธ

  34. 2020
    And beyond, this is straight gold nuggets. Give this a like of you learn something from this video.

  35. Awesome
    How he just made extremely complex things simple ๐Ÿ‘Œ

  36. So this is the new fad.he is of course gorgeous. I donโ€™t see a ring either?

  37. I gotta challenge lesson three. Sometimes you can help people and those very same people will watch you drown.

  38. I notice that motivational speakers and preachers all have cute little stories that they present as actual events that most perfectly prove the point they want to make. Life doesn't work like that.

  39. Sorry, mate – you need to give credit to Bazelgette wrt infections

  40. I spoke last in a Job Recruitment Group discussion, and got rejected immediately. ๐Ÿ˜…

  41. A sฤ“rum made of figs-&-blood plasma within an I.V. bag shall perhaps be the cure for cancer… Figs saved 1 King of Israel in the Big Book, mind you, this King was propheted to die. That is until he ran into the figs …

  42. Just imagine if EVERYBODY just "Went for it" and threw caution to the wind… This is what separates civilization from the animal world of survival and combat. You see, the FOUNDATION of society is built upon RULES AND LAWS. FOLLOW THE RULES .! Simple.

  43. I don't know how they teach it in the US and if they even do but in France as a definition of liberty they literally give Simons 1st lesson
    This is a direct traduction from the french humans and citizens rights declaration made in the 18th century : Liberty is the possibility of willingly acting, in a social or politique frame, in the measure that you don't undermine anyone elses rights and public safety

  44. The rule about speaking last really depends on your role. If youโ€™re the leader, ok, wait till the end. But if youโ€™re just an employee, this can backfire.

  45. Only sheep would allow somebody to grab a bagel out of turn when they are waiting in line for one.ย  You're lucky I wasn't waiting in line.ย  You'd need a new first item for your list.

  46. Who does this bloke think he is to give us all such lessons of life? He should be more humble and learn from quite a lot of us and not the other way round…

  47. ๐Ÿค” tried most of them outcome was different. But thankful in light of it all to to those who were a part of it

  48. 6: dont listen to morens Like This guy. You know What needs to be done. Fucking dp it

  49. What if the other guy doesn't want the bagel. Maybe that's not his goal at all.

  50. In a nutshell: Be selfish and get what you want. Let others try the same. Anarchy it is.

    Not the way I want to treat others.

  51. We're only curating what we have. Do it to the best of your ability while lifting those around you up.

  52. what a shame pushing hand/arm in between to snatch a bagel . loser!

  53. Lesson number one: So, what do you do if what other people want is all of your productive capacity? Then anything you get is denying them what they want.

  54. stop thinking right? start killing the ritch, or they will kill u, they allready did…….jews … jews owns you!

  55. there's two niggas in this lesson: This one getting my bagel while being all positive and insightful and the other one me kickin his ass like it aint a thang while being insightful and positive xD

  56. Guys Learn how to be a "gangsta" at my video : https://youtu.be/fvA2phvmk6U Make all the money in the worlddd

  57. I liked it till the verrrrryyy end. Why does America look bleak? I disagree with that statement. Other than that, I liked the speech.

  58. As a general rule, if some behaviour is not sustainable if everybody does it, then it's not good behaviour.

  59. Thank you for your blunt honesty. This is fantastic advice for all of us! And hahaha Monty Python is my favorite!

  60. Nobody pays for reality we only pay to escape it.

    The reality is when you admit weakness the vultures will eat you alive. Your loved ones will not come flocking to help. They will treat you like you are losing your mind and your sick.
    Nelson Mandela was a tyrant.
    If you allow those under you to voice their opinions they will soon think they are more important than you and begin to destroy what you built.
    Dominik is a paid speaker saying the wonderful things that keep people buying his tickets.
    Reality is brutal but if he stated the truth nobody would buy his tickets because he would be saying what we all already know.

  61. i can't tell you how to become a seal. but let me tell you how to become a seal.

  62. Stops video to check and see who was President when this video was published.

  63. 1. why would there be a line for free bagels? it would go really fast coz its free and no time at all taken to actually just take one..and no need to cut in line and grab free bagels which is a selfish trait…i agree with nr2 and nr3..nr4 go look at the mess nelson mandela has caused…go look at the stats, growth rate, economic rate etc etc in South Africa after nelson mandela took over. he is not a very good leader and not someone worth mentioning in a motivational speech. Voice your opinion take in others opinion and make a team decision after your team in the conference room has heard your opinion as well. with that said do not make a decision based on someone else's knowledge ..the last one i don't have an opinion on

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